It seems EVERYONE these days wants to know the gender of their baby prior to birth.
For loads reasons I can understand why people want to find out. Making choosing a nursery theme easier, buying clothes & being prepared for other aspects such as choosing baby names. Probably a very popular reason these days too is to have the gender reveal party!
Personally my family LOVE the fact we’ve chosen not to find out the gender. My elder sister also didn’t find out the gender of her baby, I was convinced the whole way through her pregnancy she was going to have a baby girl and yet she had a boy!
We’ve already had lots of people ask “What are you having?” I always want to reply saying “A baby!” But we just reply saying how we’ve chosen not to find out the gender. Everyone has reacted quite positively, some even more than others love that we’re not finding out.
So why in this society of everyone finding out the gender of their baby did we choose to say “no we don’t want to know” and wait until we that magical day where we get to meet our little one?
The perfect surprise
The main reason I didn’t want to find out & I think Toney would agree, is the SURPRISE! One of the few things you can’t control in life is what gender baby you will have. There are so many gender prediction myths to the shape of your baby belly to the foods you crave during your pregnancy but none of them can know for sure. Even our doctor said the gender won’t be in your notes because it’s only 94% accurate.
I can’t wait for that moment once our baby is born and in that moment of pure joy and happiness we can find out what we’ve been wondering for all these months.
The annoying opinions
When your pregnant, everyone seems to assume you have a preference of what gender you want your baby to be. I’m not against people having a gender preference at all. I’d personally find it awkward having told people what you were hoping for then if you find out your having the opposite. I’d never want people to think I was disappointed as no matter what gender your baby is, he or she will still be this perfect little human that you’ve created. You always seem to have people that make those comments like “I’m sure your husband would prefer a boy first”. Toney & I are both in agreement, as long as our baby is healthy then we couldn’t be any more happy.
I love new born babies in neutral way too much
For some reason I adore seeing newborn, tiny babies in whites & neutral colors. To me it’s just perfect, like them. Their brand new, tiny & perfect, you’ve got so many years to dress them up in pink tutus and football jerseys in my opinion.
We’re enjoying the guessing games with our family & friends
As I mentioned above, there’s so many myths of how you can guess or “predict” what gender baby you will have. But there’s still fun in guessing and wondering. When we told some our friends we were expecting, one said straight away “it’s a girl!” & it’s so much fun hearing what gender people think we’re going to have. Comparing how many people think boy compared to girl. People wonder about your family history, symptoms etc. and tell your their stories, it’s all good fun!
Those magical first moments
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not at all saying if you find out the gender those first moments aren’t magical, because I’m not! Personally I don’t want to make all the decisions about my future baby when I haven’t even met him/her yet! I want to see my baby’s face before I know their name. I don’t want to decide or create scenarios in my mind of how he or she will be, I want to see my baby and learn all about him or her when their in our arms & when they can teach us for themselves.
So far not finding out the gender of our baby has been super easy. We’ve already brought a ton of baby clothes, neutral of course! I’m going to do a baby clothes haul at some point to share some of the perfect little outfits we’ve chosen. We will be buying all the big stuff soon such as the furniture so I’ll share that with you too, proving how easy preparing for a baby without knowing the gender can be.
I would love to hear about your experiences with finding/not finding out the gender or your thoughts on this.
Were you glad you found out/waited till the birth or was you dying to have a gender reveal party?!