We all do things on a day to day basis that can cause us to lead a more negative lifestyle, even without knowing. Although sometimes we do those things while knowing, but unsure how to stop or change our thoughts/behavior. While none of us are perfect we can all try and change the way we do and think about certain things to help us lead a more positive life.
Not forgetting those days where nothing is going to plan and you don’t want to move out of your bed, days where everything possible is going wrong and you just want to curl in a ball and cry. On those days, enjoy watching hours and hours of Disney movies and eating way too much chocolate (especially while your pregnant! Ha). But from experience trying to implement the following behavioral patterns and teaching yourself to think in a different way at certain times helped massively improve my mind set and outlook of life. And I hope this works for you too.
Stop over thinking things
I used to constantly over think and worry about things, especially at night before I was about to go to sleep. My mind would suddenly come alive at night and I’d be thinking of everything I should be doing to help get my life organized while at the same time knowing the less sleep I get the less I’ll want to do anything the following day! Oh how fascinating is the human mind. However before I got to sleep, if I’ve been up blogging till late I’ll try and wind myself down by putting my phone away and listening to some relaxing music.
Worrying is something we all do, I don’t believe you can shut it off, especially in adult life with having so much to do with so little time. As I was growing up in my early twenties I used to worry a lot, then suddenly after some reading & reflection I began telling myself that “worrying doesn’t change the situation that your worried about, it will just make it harder to deal with however the outcome lies”. I began telling my friends and family the same thing so I was actually living what I was saying to myself, although this might sound odd it actually worked and I now don’t worry half as much as I did years ago. Give it a try!
Don’t obsess over the future
Who knows what tomorrow will bring, we don’t know when our time will run out, so enjoy today while it’s here!
Stop listening to negative voices;
No one needs negative people in there life. Everyone has had that friend who would question everything they would do, maybe make a sarcastic comment which would draw negative energy to the situation. You really don’t need those people in your life. Although It’s important to remember sometimes friends and family question what we do in concern for whether we might be making the wrong decision & It’s ok for people to care & be concerned. Always remember It’s your life!
Below I’ve posted one of two books which really helped me organize my life, in different ways. They were really fun reads too! The one below gives you a lot of perspective to why and how you should be spending your time // not spending your time with negative people & situations, as well as how to deal with them. If your feeling low or can relate try giving this book a read!
Don’t set the happiness bar too high
Sometimes I think we expect our life not have challenges and negative times. Although I think this can be avoided sometimes as mentioned above, (deleting negative people out of your life!) however I think its important to remember we’re all walking our own path and sometimes it will go down a new unexpected road. We may not be happy with the situation, we just need to find the strength to deal with what we have been handed.
Don’t compare yourself to other people
I find this one pretty simple. Don’t compare you life to others! Everyone has their own challenges, emotions, way of dealing with things. What someone else is aiming for is different to what you are. So maybe your having constant “bad luck” compared to friend who is getting constant good luck. That “bad luck” is building your strength and teaching you important life lessons.
Don’t hold grudge
What’s the point? What do you get from holding a grudge? Just move on with or without that person in your life. Simple.
A messy life equals a messy mind
The second book which I definitely recommend you read if you haven’t already is “The life changing magic of tidying”! Not only again is this a fun read but also puts into perspective how to de-clutter and organize your space. Lets face it we all hold on to sh*t we shouldn’t but what should we actually let go of? This book taught me just that. We all feel much better and have that sense of pride and clarity once our space (bedroom, home, wherever!) is clean and tidy, but how long does your space stay tidy for? One, two, three days? This book helped me keep my space tidier and organized for much longer. Give it a read if your space and life needs a little spring clean, link below.
I really hope my little guide to leading a happier life will help you in some way, my wonderful readers! Both books and all this advice I’ve used myself and truly believe they can work as they have for me. Would love to hear your thoughts or to know whether my suggested reads have helped you!