I’m twenty three years old. Growing up I had my serious and not so serious relationships. However I’d never been in a long distance one. Why? I suppose I’d never met anyone who I could see myself dedicating my time to who lived more than fifty miles away from me. There’s been a lot of people asking how myself and my Fiance Toney came to meet each other, which you can read about here. Although a huge aspect of our relationship was the distance. I lived in England in the West Midlands around three hours from London and Toney lived in Florida, in total there was around four thousand miles between us.
Although me and Toney were able to overcome the massive barrier in our relationship, it wasn’t easy. I was working over fifty hours a week, not having much spare time. Our relationship was purely based around communication & trust. By communication I mean messaging, phone calls and FaceTime. Luckily all of our forms of communication were free to use thanks to Apple and WhatsApp!
I would come home from work around half nine at night having worked all day, have some dinner, have a shower and then get into bed and call Toney. Depending on if I was working the next day I’d either be on the phone to him for a few hours or half an hour. Updating him on how my day had gone and telling him how much I wanted to jump on a plane to see him. This was pretty much the same all the days I was working which was a lot. On my days off we would talk more, call each other throughout the day if we weren’t busy, catch up with my family etc.
While I was working or we wasn’t on the phone we was messaging each other when we had a minute to two free. Sometimes while your working a thirteen hour shift and you worked the day before, receiving a text saying “I miss you, I cannot wait till I can hug & kiss you everyday. You are my everything” would be the thing to get me through.
In our relationship people were actually very supportive over the distance. I can imagine for many couples they get remarks and comments like “I bet it won’t work out.” & “Do you think it will actually last?”. Luckily we didn’t get any of those comments. Family, friends and work colleagues were all so supportive and if they could tell I was having a bad day or missing him, they would reassure me “It won’t be long till you see each other again & it will all be worth it.”.
I know that having a long distance relationship is a huge barrier for so many couples, but don’t let it stop you. We didn’t and we succeeded as we’re now together and planning our fairytale wedding. I’ll write a post soon about how me and Toney met and how our relationship started.