If you read the “A little about me” section you’ll know I’m a Registered Nurse.
When I was twelve years old, my older sister became pregnant while she was fifteen.
It was a shock to our whole family. Some people looked down on us with disgust (those people no longer in our lives!) but most people agreed with the decision my family made to support my sister.
She had her baby boy eight weeks early, three pounds eleven ounces. He was so small. Unfortunately ill never know how it felt to hold him when he was first born as the hospital he was under care of only permitted parents, grandparents and siblings of the child. Therefore I had to wait four weeks until he was discharged until I could physically see and hold him. Nevertheless it was still just as beautiful moment four weeks later.
Seeing my sister pregnant and have a child at a young age gave me this passion for nursing and in particular midwifery. I don’t know why but cannot describe the passion I have for it. When I’ve witnessed births during my career, heard stories, read articles, no matter what it is; it gives me this feeling where I’m so intrigued, I just want to know more until there is no more to know. I adore everything about pregnancy, labour, birth & everything else that comes with it. “The uniqueness of pregnancy and birth inspirers me”.
I applied for Midwifery in England when I was eighteen. I worked very hard at college and did extremely well knowing it was what was required to get me there. In England Nursing and Midwifery are very competitive subjects to get onto, especially as when I were applying, the NHS Bursary were in place, meaning students could get money while being on the course. I managed to get five interview days at my five chosen universities. I remember on the interview day them saying “Remember whatever happens after today, you should all be very proud to be here. Over 2000 people apply and we only interview around 300”.
However I did not get a place and being told how proud we should feel did not help me feel any better. I was devastated, heartbroken in fact. I did not want to take a year out so I decided to apply for nursing and got accept to both of my applied universities, so my journey as a nurse began!
My career in nursing & midwifery started in 2013, since then I’ve worked in a Critical/Intensive care unit for nearly one year along with one year prior as a student, worked in a private hospital which is all based around elective surgery and also neonatal intensive care for six months. Along my journey I’ve also witnessed four natural low risk births, four caesarian sections and a high risk delivery.
However with all the good stuff, comes the bad. Countless tears in the cupboard at work, going home crying because the patient you’ve become to know over the weeks has passed away and not to mention how other staff can make you feel.
I’m so glad that I did my nursing before my midwifery. I’ve gained so many valuable skills which I know will enable me to become a better midwife in the future. On one of my placements in a maternity ward a midwife said to me “I think all midwives should have to do there nursing first, your always responsible for more than one life”. Many will probably disagree with this but I do know for sure nursing has given me such valuable skills & knowledge that I’m sure midwifery wouldn’t have given me.
Coming from England to America, I have to take an exam & get my degree accredited, once that is completed I can work out here and apply for my midwifery degree.
Nursing & midwifery is not for everyone, such a demanding, personal job with countless responsibilities for life and I’d say the majority of the time feeling very unappreciated.
However I love my job and CANNOT wait for the day I get accepted to complete my degree in midwifery and continue my career in this country!
If there are any nurses or midwives in the US I’d love to talk! Any advice/guidance is always appreciated! I’m also planning on writing a few posts on advice for your first job, completing your portfolio, interviews & more. If there’s anything anyone would like to read in particular I would love to know!